In the end we all are on our own

All of us do love to be in company of good friends. We expect them to help us in the times of our need. This is a kind of a desire we have. Its a natural desire too. But this same desire is also the cause of problems in relations. We help out friends in times of need. But when we do this there is a natural expectation that comes from it. We expect our friends to love us in the same way. But this may not always happen. When this happens many times it can be discouraging. It leads to sadness and some cases depressions. This can be insidious.This can happen in relationships of any nature.

Whats the way outta this?

Well this answer comes from my experience of life so far. First of all let us try and love another unconditionally. Lets us make a consious effort in this direction. This means that we will not expect anything in return at all. We do something good to that person because we want to so so.

Secondly, let me point out to you that "In the end we all are on our own". Our parents cant be with us for ever. We never know when our elder or  younger brothers and sisters stop thinking about us. Our friends may be too busy or just out of contact or just not interested in us any more. We die and go to the grave alone. This dont mean that we wont have concerned people helping us. Well its just a continuation of the first point. If we have people concerned about us we should consider ourselves blessed. In the mean time we must train ourselves to be a friend to our own self. We must also be a counsellor to our own self and not depend on the other as far as possible for any help. Lets try to be physically, emotionally and spiritually independent. This helps us to be ready for any unexpected change in our life in terms of relations.

And yes caveating before we jump into anything can go a long way not only in our relationships but also in a whole lot of other areas.